My brain doesn’t know where my heart is when I’m looking in the mirror.

I know, my blog titles are getting stranger and stranger, but whatever. I was getting ready for work the other day and for some reason I was trying to figure out where my heart was and I was looking in the mirror, and for a moment I thought it was on my right side, obviously I was wrong. Anyway, that got me thinking about more metaphorical hearts, the heart that we have that loves our best friends, is touched by Disney movies, is awed by the vastness of the night sky, is sad when reading about a beloved character’s death. We don’t see that heart, unless we know the person of course. But what if we could? I guess to an extent we can in how people dress, whether they have a Harry Potter t-shirt on, are going to see Frozen with their mom, maybe they’re just sitting in a park enjoying the beauty, but for the most part, we just see people we don’t know doing things that only pertain to them and have no bearing in our lives. But, again, what if we could? What would that look like? I think it would be beautiful, and painful, in the way that the cold of the snow stings your skin when you’re outside on a cold winter’s night, or the way you feel when you look back on past relationships and you’re glad you learned that lesson, but man, it hurt, or whatever it is that makes you feel something so passionately that it’s almost an ache, and I think sometimes it is an actual ache. I don’t know how you can physically feel something that is affecting you emotionally, that’s just crazy to me, but whatever, I digress. I’m not talking so much about everyone’s secret hearts where they hide their fears and anxieties and what not, just about what makes that person feel something. What if we saw people’s hearts like mini weather systems around them? In that cloud there would be books, music, people, animals, toys, movies, clothes, hobbies, and a whole bunch of other things in their bubble, just floating around, like a mirage, because really, a physical thing would be kinda weird, not that this wouldn’t be weird, but it would be less weird.

What would your heart look like?

What would mine look like? 

Would we still talk to other people? It’s not like we talk to strangers very often now, though more often than I realize. I know I blog a lot about how people see us, but I think it’s something important to think about, not because you need to change yourself, just so you can know yourself and accept all those little quirks that make you the person you are.

Always,

-M

P.S. I really enjoy the Christmas robot wrapping paper I bought.

Redefining your world.

I was writing in my prayer journal the other day and I realized that I use the salutation, “Lord”, while if I’m praying aloud or silently I tend to use, “Dear Lord”, which I thought was interesting.  I don’t know why I do that, but it did get me started thinking about what it means to address someone as, “dear”.  Let’s go back to Merriam-Webster and see what they say it means. There are other definitions besides the one I am choosing to use, but this best suits the point of the blog.  The definition I chose defines dear as, “highly valued”, and goes on to say that it is often a word used in a salutation. How often do you use “dear” as a salutation?  I don’t use it much anymore, even though I do write to people from time to time.  In casual writing I will use the person’s first name, especially if they are a fairly close friend, in professional correspondence I tend to use a last name, or “to whom it may concern”, if I don’t have a name to go on.  I think sentiment is often lost in the written word now, though clearly there are some notable examples of where it still thrives, such as Harry Potter.  Can you tell I thoroughly enjoy those books?  Anyway, I do, I think it has been lost in technology, now we text each other short sentences, maybe long texts, we message each other on Facebook, in roughly the same fashion, e-mails seem to be becoming more brief and less formal.  Why is this?  Obviously to some extent it’s easier, but what happened to using “dear” in my world and others’?  I don’t know.  But to think that just one four letter word could get across to them, “you’re someone I deeply care about, look at this letter I wrote you, I sincerely hope you’re doing well and want to know all about what’s going on in your life”, or, “I love you, you highly valued person”.  Just one word.  There is so much implied within it, yet I fail to write it, and I like to think I’m not the only one, but maybe that’s just egocentric because goodness knows I don’t want to feel bad about myself at all.  I think that this happens with a lot of words, though lately I have only been fixated on “dear”, so I have not thought of many others.  Perhaps “sincerely” could be included, and “fond”, or possibly even simple words like “happy” or “sad”, though there are many others to get into deeper emotions than that.  So anyway, I feel it is good practice to take a moment to think about the words we are using and what they really mean in our world.

Who comes to your mind when you hear the word “dear”?

Always,

-M

P.S. Crest may have a mouthwash that has no alcohol and thus advertises that it has no burn of alcohol, but man, it definitely has a burn of something!